I hope its okay to add a comment. I have two young sons, so I have not experienced teen children yet.
Despite that, your daughter is clearly in turmoil. She needs and deserves both parents respect. That respect right now is honesty. That doesn't mean full disclosure of details she doesn't want and more important, soesn't need. It sounds as though she wants to know she is not being treated as a juvenile any more.
It sounds as though your husband has fallen in her eyes. I feel for her loss. That's what I imagine it feels like to her, is loss. She has lost her image of how she viewed men and relationships. Unfortunately that is your husbands burden to deal with. So let him deal with it, not you.
