Moving on with my life!

[smith18]

I wish this guy would write a book for us guys having a hard time making it past the first date. I cant figure out how a lier, cheater, drunk driving, alcoholic, drug addict can get so many women attracted and obsessed with him. I am reminded of John Belushi begging and giving the puppy dog eyes to Carrie Fisher in Blues Brothers...

You know I love ya, baby. I wouldn't leave ya. It wasn't my fault. Honest! I ran out of gas. I had a flat tire. I didn't have enough money for cab fare. My tux didn't come back from the cleaners. An old friend came in from out of town. Someone stole my car! There was an earthquake! A terrible flood! Locusts! It wasn't my fault, I swear to God!

[Startingover2]

I wish this guy would write a book for us guys having a hard time making it past the first date. I cant figure out how a lier, cheater, drunk driving, alcoholic, drug addict can get so many women attracted and obsessed with him. I am reminded of John Belushi begging and giving the puppy dog eyes to Carrie Fisher in Blues Brothers...

You know I love ya, baby. I wouldn't leave ya. It wasn't my fault. Honest! I ran out of gas. I had a flat tire. I didn't have enough money for cab fare. My tux didn't come back from the cleaners. An old friend came in from out of town. Someone stole my car! There was an earthquake! A terrible flood! Locusts! It wasn't my fault, I swear to God!

That was awesome and you are so right. Not sure how he does it either.

[kassie]

(((SO2)))

What an email... I understand the desire to know what is going on with him ... to wonder what he is thinking and doing... to wonder if you have anything to worry about...
I can tell you that it is such a relief to not have to know! My H and I work at the same place and our offices are next door to each other. I can hear his convos and phone calls if I care to pay attention. In the beginning I wanted to know what he was doing to prepare myself for any unwanted events.

But at some point I let it all go and I feel so much better. Anything I need to know I will eventually find out and the rest doesn't matter. From experience I have learned this. Please think about letting go more than you are. It is so much easier not wondering anymore.

[iwantittowork]

Hey SO2, have not stopped by in a while, but wanted to check in. You have been getting great advice, and it seems you are starting to break away a bit for yourself.

Keep it up.

I love Kassie's post above. Let it go..

Keep it up!

[Startingover2]

I was pretty good this weekend. He sent 4 texts through the day asking how baby was. I answered the first and then the last one. He asked what the problem was and I didn't respond. It feels good to not respond but I do get some anxiety along with it...like "what is he going to do if he gets mad?" I don't know why I still care about that. I would have to say its alot less than in the past.

New week..going to be raining here all week. We need the rain so bad, but baby and I get stir crazy if we have to be cooped up all week.

[Startingover2]

The spoiled little boy is getting angry with the new 'me'. He is desperately trying to dig at me. This morning:

Exh: Are you in a better mood today or no? or did I interrupt you yesterday?
Me: Im in a great mood. Do you know what time you will be coming today for your visit? I would like to plan my day.
Exh: Wait! Why so blunt with my yesterday?
Me: I am trying to plan the day. Can you please tell me when you are coming?
Exh: Why? Where do you think you are going in this weather?
Me: I have things to do...again for the third time...when are you coming today?
Exh: I don't know.
Me: Please let me know as soon as you can.

I looked at our papers again. All they say is he has from 3-6 and will call and let me know when. Unfortunately they don't specify when he has to tell me. Its 2:00 right now and still no call telling me when he is coming.

Oh I so want to tell him exactly why I am shutting him down.

[volleydog]

That was perfect though...He's realizing he can't bully you around anymore.

[S.T. _I Made It!]

wow, that girl is completely pathetic right now. how miserable her life must be to be obsessed with him like this. she has no respect for herself, and neither does she love herself. gosh, be glad you are not like her, because you easily could have been.

fyi, this doesn't say anything about exh btw. this gives nothing about what he's done, but just shows how somehow he is able to put a hold on women. so crazy.

one thing I wanted to quote

SO2 wins every single time and that is just the worst part of it all.

I thought this was interesting. this is what you think about the other exw and her too sometimes.

[S.T. _I Made It!]

hey, are you afraid to tell him if he does not contact you within 30 minutes after his time starts that you will go on with your day plans? otherwise, your going to be asking every single time.

I would document this on a paper trail..and txting, you can probably save or something.

he really wants to know what your doing with your life now. just always be calm and upbeat.

and yes, I forgot to say, quit reading the emails! lol

[Startingover2]

Yeah its truly amazing the whole hold he has on women...I am breaking free baby steps at a time.

So at 3:45 I hadn't heard a thing from exh about his visit today. I sent:

Me: What is the plan for today? When do you think you are coming?
Exh: Not sure.
Me: I would like to know either way as soon as you can please.
Exh: Just go do your plans. Im not coming.
Me: Up to you...just want to go about my afternoon.

I ended up going to my kickboxing class and when I got home my sone was here with his friends and exh's d15 was here too. They are still good friends, yet she wants nothing to do with exh. She took a pic of baby on her phone and sent it to exh. Right after the kids left he sent a message to me asking if d15 was at my house today. I told him she just left and I think he was shocked. He asked if she just stopped by and who she was with. Its very pathetic...he spends so much time being the town gigalo that he has lost his daughter! He has no idea what goes on with her!