During this difficult time you will be faced with many choices. Things we tell you are from our experiences. We have hindsight. This will give you foresight.
You have a choice between reacting or responding. I feel it is always better to respond. That puts you in control. If you react, that puts her in control. Who do you want in control?
You have a choice between responding immediately or delaying your response. If you delay your response with "I need time to think about that"or better yet "mmmm". You can always come here for input. Then respond appropriately.
You have a choice on speaking or listening. Listening more and speaking less right now is important. Validate everything that comes out of WAS's mouth NO MATTER HOW CRAZY IT SOUNDS: "I am sorry you feel that the sun is green and the rain smells like fish".
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
