In the list of 180's and talking about the future....it means that if the LBH was consistantly talking to the WAW about their future together....in the same context he would point out how great their M life was and would get the old wedding pictures out to show her, etc. This was a 180 direction and to be stopped at once. A 180 to his usual pattern.
That list is a general list of suggestions for people to have. They aren't rules & regulations. You have to look at your stitch and do what needs to be done accordingly.
In your personal stitch, you should not "assume" anything. It sounds as if you have allowed your W to run the show for much too long. You need to take control of your life and protect it and your children. If she is talking S/D then you should not do anything to help her or make things easier for her. Find a place for you and the children to live and she doesn't want to join you, then she can pay for her ow place. Don't be a doormat.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
