I asked because I did want to hear all that. Glad you talked to Ken. It helps to hear yourself say things rather than leave it rolling around in your head. Helps to set it free.
So, you told her you would move out, then told her you didn't want to? To me, that says, if you don't start treating me better, I'm going to leave. If you feel like you're putting pressure on her, then stop it. From what you've written here, she regards you as a room mate. Good company, good friend. That may be where you are right now. My guess is you are getting along great. As long as it stays friends.
If you are going to move out, do so with the intent that you may not be coming back. Move out for personal reasons, not just because things aren't going your way. And I agree, you can't do work on this R if you're not there. What's going to get better if you leave? You're still not going to get laid ( at least by your W) and you'll miss your kids. Will you be able to accept her choices if you're gone? Because this would be a separation, right?
Check in with your intentions. Try not to do something just to get a reaction. What's the next step? She's been honest and open, so have you. The cards are on the table. Are you needs so great that this is becoming a dealbreaker?
Is winter over or are we going to get more of the white stuff? Today was gorgeous. Despite that little dump of snow, I feel like spring is here. I'm not putting away the winter clothes yet, though.
