What can I do to save my marriage? Help

[DDogs]

Tridoc, it sounds like your w thinks that she is in control and driving this train now and as long as she believes that, she will not reach crisis mode. Your actions have shown that this is unacceptable to you and you will not tolerate this, period.. That needs to stay like that, no weakness or backslide. You need to be ROCK SOLID. and the 4 C's. Believe me this will make the W nuts.

Give it a little time, now with the OM exposed to his W, He very likely is having second thoughts about your wife, he just wanted an easy uncomplicated piece of tail... now that OM has been called out he has much to lose, I doubt he will be chasing your W. Once your W realizes this, it will sink in and W will have a holy Sh!t moment.

I was cautioned by others here to expect the unexpected by a factor of 10,, believe it, I saw it in my sitch first hand.

You also might want to consider buying a keeping on you a small digital recorder.... Mine threatened to call the police on me...