Here is where I'm at. I have come to accept the fact that W wants to D. As much as I try DB, tough love etc..those will not 100% guarantee she will change her mind.
There's no guarantee that any of this will work. If that's what you're hoping for, you're in the wrong place.
It may be that dropping the rope and pushing towards D will really start her to think, since her struggle for the D was as much a struggle against you. Now that you and she are heading the same direction, she needs to think.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
