ooops out hes popped again, he contacted auntie yesterday to ask if she was alright, didnt offer to do anything for her but at leasted he checked on her now the snow as gone. also he contacted son and invited him for tea yesterday, if you remember he asked if he could come to the next parents day at school, it will be sons last one before employment, I told him it was tomorrow, he as phoned to confirm it is still on and even offered to call and give me a lift to the school, maybe I havent done the right thing but due to the fact that he hasnt offered me a lift in 5 years, and the fact that he couldnt come in my home to see son at xmas, I declined the lift, not is those two last statements the only reason, i think he as only offered to save himself face and not looking forward to turning up to school on his own facing the teachers hes never met, oh well my choice my decision, i do not need him and i do not need a lift, "jog on knob head" is my new saying, lol