I don't know--for me it seemed to put some form to the chaos. Chaos is frightening in itself, just because you don't know what's coming at you next. And once there's a label there might be some marginal predictability, even if it's an abysmal situation to expect. Different things help different people, I think.


M60
H52
D20
M14 yrs
OW-old gf from 1986
bomb-5/18/08
H filed for D-9/10/08
D final 4/24/09
xH remarried (not OW) 2012