Thanks Gardener. I will check out the article and book.
As an side, I actually already own Michele's "7 steps..." book. I bought it yesterday and have already read it cover to cover. I found it to be inspiring and insighful...and I'm hoping I can apply what I've learned from it as well as any tips and suggestions from others here to my relationship.
With my significant other having already moved out, and the specifics like the fact that we arent married, I am essentially putting into action somethimg between the "last resort" and "last, last resort" strategies...and since she's said she wasnt interested in working things out, I'm doing all the heavy lifting on my own.
As I was reading through the 7 steps book, I had set goals of having my SO return by May...our anniversary month. However, as I got through more of the book I came to realize that at this stage, and with the fact that my SO falls into something of a WAW/MLC type, I should be prepared for a good deal of waiting...many months...but hopefully not years.
My SO has an extremely short fuse, so the trial and error/experimentation of what works and what doesnt is not easy. So far it seems that the only thing that might be working is being polite/lighthearted and keeping discussions fairly focused on our daughter. Even that I'm not 100% sure on though...it's hard to tell if she's reacting positively to that, or if there are other things going on in her life that might be affecting her mood/demeanor.
At any rate, thanks again for the suggestions and encouragement. I welcome and am looking forward to futher responses from everyone.
