Running out of time.

[MHL]

Clv,
ONS is "one night stands", You sound as though you have a good handle on things and that you were DBing and didn't even know it. My view on my W and our marriage is that the M is over and that if she were to ever come back it would have to be new, but kids will never let it be new if we were to get back together.

I think that the only thing that would wake up a WAW is for them to get into a R w/ OM and have the R run its course. The OM will eventually start treating her wrong or better yet dump her. The thing that I read in some success stories is that when they do settle down you then become the OM and you will always have a reason to interact with your W b/c of the children. That has wrecked many A's because the OM gets jealous. That is my approach for now, I am not sure if my W is involved with OM but if she is she is keeping it quiet this time but there again I am not looking. I have dropped the rope. I think that is all we can do.