I think that I want to put some focus on doing The Work. I am suffering because I am believing my thoughts. I need to challenge those thoughts. I want to re-read I Need Your Love - Is that True?. It's a great book and it helps me to see that there are other ways of looking at love than the way that I am stuck in now.
All of Byron Katie's stuff is tremendous. I used The Work to help me shift my thinking around my H's EA, to help find some peace and take actions that were in alignment with what I wanted. I'm not sure where in the world you are, but she's speaking at a conference in San Diego in the next couple of months. I've seen her before, and it's invaluable. In fact, H and I are taking FIL to see her, hoping he's chosen as one of the people she works with on stage. <evil grin>
Hang in there! Find a way to create that "ski weekend" mentality every single day.
SD
Me: 40 H: 43 H had EA from 2/06-9/06 Bomb 5/06 Piecing since 9/2006 3/2008: Boundary setting 7/2009: Boundary crossing~dropped my own bomb. 8/2010: Marriage finally on track!
