Running out of time.

[Cie la vie]

MHL,

Nice to get your take on things. It is crazy how many of us seem to be on the same ride.

What does ONS's stand for?

You are correct they definitely know what they are doing is wrong and the spin doctoring, revisionist history and rewriting the whole marriage/relationship to justify and rationalize what they are doing is incredible. Some of the BS reasons the W has laid on me for her decision where just ridiculous.

I'm not sure I would characterize my W behavior toward the children as totally abandoned at least not yet but her focus has dramatically shifted since the sh**t hit the fan. She mentioned to me last night that the kids had a B-day party to attend for classmate but she opted to send the nanny to it so she could go for a hike. This is an example of the selfishness and shift in her focus away from the kids and onto her. I didn't say anything, just got up and and went to work (this morning).

In all likelyhood your W's behavior will increase not decrease when she moves out.

I absolutely believe this is what will happen with my W as well. My guess is the local OM she is currently talking to will become apartment visitors etc. I do worry about the kids when they are with her, but not much I can do about it.

I'm not sure my W will wake up under any circumstances, at least that is what I tell myself so that I do not get my hopes up. Her sister echo's your comment about hitting rock bottom before she can see the light. The problem with that is the house will have long since sold and the damage will be complete.

The helmet is strapped on tight for the duration of this disaster. Keep plugging away as well. Thanks for rolling out the welcome mat.