Thanks everyone. A lot of help here and a lot to digest. Should I get a lawyer first? Do I make things worse legally by kicking her out on her a$$? I have a call into a lawyer friend about all this.
I am not opposed one bit to what RobX says. It is my first reaction.
When I kicked my wife out, I didn't ask a lawyer for advice or permission and she left with her tail between her legs, I guess I did it in such a way that she felt very bad about what happened and she was extremely sad that she had to leave and now she's trying to work her way back and being super nice and acknowledging her mistakes and owning her actions.
In the end tri, if you want to talk to a lawyer do it but I would still proceed to kicking her out, if she wants to force her way back in after a few days and contacts a lawyer to do so, let her, let her do all the work, let her expend all the required energy and effort in fact I would highly recommend this but go forth with the original plan: stand up for yourself, kick her out, let her know she has lost the world.
