I have no issue with anything you said. It works great for us and it wouldn't work for you. My wife finds it hot to hear other guys get as excited over he as they do, and her excitement is an aphrodisiac to me.
Personally, I am more comfortable with a 3 way than with role playing....I just can't get it out of my head that it is only a game. We've done some role playing, with some success, but it's really not the same for us.
bob
divorced in 2003 Married in 12/2005 born 1948 wife born 1958 divorced in 2001