Gardner...Thanks so much! Those words are the same ones I have been telling myself these last couple of weeks. I am that man and you know what...he is starting to come out and I like me. That is where she gets shocked and angry...She said she sees me moving on and that is a good thing but it upsets her as a wife. She told me she is caught between being my best friend and being my wife. I just told her I have to do me. In my head I am moving forward not necessarily on.
I will start working on scripting. Also I will wait to call her back when she calls so I can have my head together.
Also I feel that if I did these things it would be for me. I am finding that any opportunity to change and do something different only helps me. It makes me feel good to do this even though I am scared, hurt, and angry. These changes and the way I am handling this are the only decisions I have made since this started that my gut ( not my emotions) say are right.