She seems to think that she has to consider his feelings of hurt if she ever does break it off.
. Your wife doesn't respect you. Turn off the internet access at your home, cancel her cell phone.
Give here the "I have decided ....." speech. You will live like this as long as you let her behave this way. You control how you handle things.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.