Help OM's W buck up and play the tough love card, too. But I predict she'll have an easier time b/c he's going to be begging to come back. He can't afford what he's done.
This is also true. Just because your wife may be in a fog doesn't mean that the OM won't snap out of it when reality sinks in.
The important thing for you to decide is, does her affair mean it's over between you two? Is it a deal-breaker? If not, then what do you need from her in order to start rebuilding that trust?
(Oh, and if she comes back and wants to reconcile, get yourselves to an MC.)
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
