My assumptions were right. H and I were talking yesterday about finances and everything under the sun. He mentioned that we should stop seeing MC, look into a therapist for the kids and file for separation. I was very calm and did not react emotionally. I looked at him and said, "That's not what I want. I'm sorry that you feel that way but I understand. If that's where your head is then there isn't much I can do about it and I will not stop you." There was a lot more talk along those lines, each time I told him that I heard him, I disagreed but would do it if that's the direction he wanted to go.
I can't help but think that he was testing me each and every time he said he was ready to file, which had to be 8 times or so during the 8 hours he was here yesterday with the kids. I'm so proud of myself though, I never took the bait! I was calm, understanding and pleasant. Yay, she learns!
He made mention of how MC doesn't seem to be helping our M. I fell on the sword and told him that I thought it would work better if I hadn't been so stubborn. He didn't say anything, that must mean he agrees! Haha, of course he does because it's true! I am one stubborn bitty!.
We ended the day with him saying he will go to one more MC session and see how it goes from there. The interesting thing is when I told him that Legal Separation is not what I wanted but would do it if that was what he ultimately wanted, he replied, "No, this is something that we both need to be on board for."
I thought that was very interesting and positive!
Mantra for the week: Don't f*ck this week up, Lulu!
Me 37 H 41 2-dd's (2,3) T-14 M-10 D-Day 6/18/09 (MOW ended their brief "love" affair a few weeks later) Separated- 7/3/09
