HforH,
Welcome.

Quick preliminary thoughts:
-Read Last Resort Techniques in DR.
-Do Not leave your home or your marital bed.
-Read Coach's Boundaries thread here on Newcomers. Contact with EA is unacceptable in your house, you will not share your wife with another man.
-Frankly, "she can't find a job"? Tough. Do not help her in any way. Real-world consequences of her actions.
-Consider talking to a DB Telephone Coach if you can afford it.
-Read The 5 Love Languages
-I see some real, small positives in your sitch. You're off to a good start.
-Write in paragraphs and break it up. Much easier to read and digest that way.

I have no experience in EA/PA, so I will bow out now and let those who do chime in.

Good luck.

Last edited by Gardener; 01/18/10 05:24 PM.
Gardener

"My soul, be satisfied with flowers,
With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them
In the one garden you may call your own."
Cyrano deBergerac