Keep doing what you are doing. Make goals and make them for yourself not her. I am in your exact situation. If you read through my situation. You will find lots of advise. Try and do better at listening to there advise then i am and you will be fine.
M:33 W:32 Married 10/28/07 C: B13 G10 (Both from different relationships) 12/30/09 Bomb Divorce Busted 2/04/10 5/15/12 Bomb 2