A, It all takes time and right now, you need to focus on you and your children. As far as your h goes, he needs to complete his journey.
Yes, he most likely was crying on the phone. He was crying because he had a moment of clarity and realized what he had done to his family. Will that moment of clarity be enough to bring him around more? I don't think so. He's got a long ways to go and he really needs to hit bottom in order to better understand what he has lost along the way and he will need to prove himself and recommit to you and the family before I would even consider him returning full time to the relationship.
Forgiveness will come...you just aren't there yet.....I would continue the NC for a while longer. At some point, you will need to discuss your family, etc. w/him...but no relationship talks. Keep the conversation on your children, i.e., no ow discussions, etc.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
