Don't know where to post this.

[P17]

I haven't chimed in on this thread at all but I've read the last half dozen pages.

You remind me of me a few months ago. I think I've come down the road and made a lot of changes and understand things a lot better. I have my ups and downs and low moments (this being on of them).

The thing though is that EVERY SINGLE PERSON in this thread is telling you the same thing. But you're too scared to act on the advice. Kicking your wife to the curb is completely non-intuitive. How the hell can that work? How can pushing somebody away actually bring them back closer to you.

Surprisingly enough, it does.

She is doing nothing but cake eating. She has two men to fulfill all of her emotional needs. Two men that love her. Two men that will do whatever she wants them to do. Two men FIGHTING over her. Jeez, how great is that? How great would it feel if you had two women doing that for you? I know it would boost me regardless of how 'wrong' it is.

My advice is exactly the same as everybody else. Kick her to the curb. Stop her cake eating. Make it very clear you will NOT share her with anybody else. And while she is sharing herself with somebody else you will not enable her any further financially, sexually or emotionally. You deserve respect. You deserve somebody who loves you. You deserve to be happy.

She is disrespecting you. She doesn't love you. She is making you miserable.

The biggest thing you can do now ... grow a pair of b*lls and get on with it.

And when you kick her to the curb and break contact don't do it half-ar*ed or you've had it. Do it all on the same day. Leave her with the thought that 'WTF just happened'. Don't give her time to process it. Kick her away, close the door and ignore ALL contact unless it's business to do with the M. And even then ignore it as long as you can.

If you continue doing what you're doing you will push your W further and further away. And you will become a bigger and bigger emotional wreck.

Your one and only priority just now is you. Not her. Work on you. GAL, 180's and do whatever you need to do to ensure your emotional and mental state is preserved. You will need it for the rest of your life. For me that led me to NC. Best thing I ever did for me.