Start of the end..

[iwantittowork]

Seems like it's been a while since I have been checking in to the db forums, so updated myself on some of your sitch's, and adding some journal entries now on mine..

Went to L office last week, to try and get him to offer deal to stbxw to get this rolling. He was trying to say we have plenty of time before pretrial hearing, but I told him we need to work on this deal now, as I fully expect her to reject most of what we offer, and at least I will know where I stand. She won't make a move currently, why would she when she gets a free place to live, and support as well and gets to live the single life on weekends at my expense financially? Sad that I have to pay for all this when I didn't want it to begin with and the state is backing it up. Nothing I can do about it...

I decided I would not be going to party stbxw setup and emailed me about, so I just emailed her back last weel that I will pickup d8 2 hours after the party.

Picked up d8 this weekend, and stbxw tells me about 2 other kids parties coming up in the next two weekends that I need to take d8 to. I asked when she new about them, and she tries to say there was an invitation in the paperwork that she put in last weeks d8 stuff that came with her. I told her no, it was not in there, but she claims it was. BS. I check every piece of paper that comes to my place in d8's stuff, and it wasn't there. I double checked again when I got back, and nothing. Not an argument I am going to have, nor be able to win, I told her it wasn't there before, but she won't believe me. Oh well. Minor, but she has done this in the past in our relationship, and if she actually finds it with her stuff, will never acknowledge that she was wrong. Again, doesn't matter, but annoying..

Had d8's party this weekend, and it was a bit emotional for me, but manageable, as I was busy. She seems to have had a good time, and that is good. I tried to give her the best party I could, given limitations with fiances currently, and just be there as much as I can be for her.

We'll see where this week goes, d8 turns to d9 tomorrow AM, and at least I will have her to drop off at school, and glad I will be able to be around for her actual day she turns 9. Been a bit of a roller coaster the last few days, but now the holidays and birthdays are all past, and hopefully things begin to settle down into routines a bit now..