Jon’s right, its about forgiveness? When you forgive someone.. you end up letting it go. I guess that’s where the phrase “forgive and forget” comes from?
Forgiveness is for you right, they say on DB.. in this case, if you COULD forgive, then you get keep your H…but hey if you can’t its not surprising, a three year affair is a lot to get past of couse. I guess it depends how much you l*ve him and really want him as your life partner…? And if the C can help.
I know its been different for me, but it still devastated me when he walked out and to then later to find out he was dating that woman, after leading me up the garden path for that 6 months previously.. well, I lost count of the times I was on my knees, sobbing my heart out. And the night he asked me to dinner and we reconciled.. I just decided there and then to forgive him. It was either that, or..walk away. And I didn’t want to give up and start over. Forgiveness was a very conscious decision I made. Luckily for him, my motto is “never give up !”.
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
