Keep Your Hands Offa My Mojo

[hoosiermama]

ok, then we're on the same page then. I like the term "putting a face on the enemy"--quite descriptive and accurate. the enemy being the "disorder" of course; the disordered spouses have their own set of faces already.

let me just tell you--no, no matter what you would have said to her, no matter how you handled her mother's death retrospectively, it wouldn't have changed anything. once the thing happens in their brains, they're on a course of their own and only time can change it. it has to run its course, and then you get to see what you're left with. except by then, of course, it's like Sherman's march to the sea.

if you're like the rest of us--and there's a syndrome to us, too--you'll do more post-mortem analysis than the coroner in Gary, Indiana (last I checked, the murder capital of the US). it brings a measure of peace. maybe even growth. otherwise it's a waste of suffering.