After losing our home in our financial crisis, we moved into a rental in the same neighborhood of similar size so as not to disrupt our family situation too much. As this marriage break down has intensified, she suggested talking to the landlord about breaking the lease and downsizing so that we could afford two places ... a smaller house for her and the kids, and an apartment for me.
Since then, the landlady has agreed to re-list the house and if it rents, we can get out of the lease. I come home every night to boxes being packed and seeing her looking for houses on the internet.
I'm not sure where I fit. This started as a suggestion, a discussion as to maybe a way to work through our marriage problems ... give her space, start 'dating' each other again, etc. But we never got to concrete terms ... visitation with the kids, is she serious about the dating thing, etc.
I'm doing the DR techniques, but I'm not sure how to find out where I fit in. Do I continue helping with the packing with the assumption that this is going to be a money-saving move for us and that we're just downsizing? Do I assume that I am to be included on the visits to view properties? Do I assume that my name will also be on the lease? Or do I ask her and risk looking unsure and weak?
Everyday she seems to get more distant ... I'm really trying the DR techniques, but it's hard. Every day hurts.
