Serenity, Originally Posted By: Serenity13 Sweetie - You will never fully be finished grieving her/your marriage...There will always be a piece of you that wonders - What could have been, what went wrong, what should have been etc... I understand your point but, Lord, I hope you're wrong.
I agree with Serenity here, and acceptance of that is helpful. I believe we will always have periods of time when we reflect and wonder, and still have those feelings. How can we not? They were a huge part of our life. I do believe though that the emotion of them will lessen over time as we gain better perspective and our own personal growth.
As a former smoker that still gets the urge for a cigarette once in a while, I know these feelings come back and never go away. I also still think back to my first fiance at times and just wonder, and we split up some 16+ years ago.
Those times never go away, but when they come they can be managed, so don't beat yourself up for feeling the way you do right now, after having an emotional conversation with your stbxw.
You continue to do well G, and are a strong and resilient man.
M: 41 STBXW: 41 D: 9 Bomb: 4/26/09
On board the D train now..
"Suffering is when we try to change what we cannot."
