Hey GIMA, I recall being where you are, things will get better. It is so darn tough to be in the same house with Stbxw.
Keep focus on you, kids, and what your doing and where you want to go, stay dark as you can.
Staying dark is for your benefit as well, helps to keep your focus on you. When you drift at times to wondering what your stbxw is doing or thinking, try some keyword thoughts, or actions, that will help push your thoughts back to you and what you want.
Interestingly, for myself, I use one of the four agreements. "Don't take it personally" when I start to drift to stbxw in my thoughts, I actually say that in my mind. It snaps me back to the fact that she is on her own journey and it has nothing to do with me. Then I can return my focus to myself and d8 and brings my emotions back as well.
Have a great day GIMA, for you and your kids today!
M: 41 STBXW: 41 D: 9 Bomb: 4/26/09
On board the D train now..
"Suffering is when we try to change what we cannot."
