I want her to want me, but I do not want to be around her if she doesn't want me. So while I try to put a good foot forward when around her, I am more and more feeling the unwantedness when I am around her and it is turning me off from wanting to even put a good foot forward in front of her. This is leading me to start showing more of an "I don't care" attitude towards her.
Maybe this is where you have to be in order to be able to detach. It's better if you can do it without resentment, but for some people, that may have to come first.....then they can finally detach.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
