I find a lot of LBH's on the board who are generally nice men with gentle mannors and they find it very difficult to not respond to TM/calls from the W. They see it as rude. But......you are detaching from her. Greek's answer is the best! Just a simple "K" and not one word farther or you'll be into a conversation. Breaking the habit of immediately responding to everything is difficult for you. You see responding to her "joke" as almost necessary, but I see it as an excuse to keep a contact going. You've got to get past this part of thinking you are being rude. Don't you consider having an A as being rude? Why would you be concerned that you are not showing good manners to a woman who has been unfaithful?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
