What can I do to save my marriage? Help

[Sleepy]

Ok, here goes. I got home from work at around 9 after a rough day and there were about 8 kids in the house just taking over the place. I had a rough day and I just lost it. I was frustrated that she wasn’t home and things were in havoc. There were dirty dishes in the sink, kids in all the rooms, the TV was blaring and video games all over the floor. I told all of them to go all home and sent the babysitter home and put my kids to bed.

I was just pissed that she would go off and leave them especially since I was working all weekend. I thought about how things would be if we were divorced and how could such a responsible person suddenly now become so irresponsible. I guess that’s the WAW. They don’t care do they?

I cleaned up the place and she called me when her flight arrived and she was on the shuttle on the way to her car. She could tell that I was angry. I was short with her and I made sure that when she came home all the lights were out and she didn’t get a welcome from anyone.

She came into my room and then told me about her trip. I listened for inconsistencies. She didn’t elaborate much but she told me the day before on the phone that she took a shuttle bus from the airport to the hotel. Today she told me that she took a taxi. I casually asked when she got in. She said immediately after her plane arrived. So that would put her in the hotel around 9 or so? She was lying. I checked, with the desk it was later. I didn’t tell her that though.

I asked why didn’t she contact us? “The kids sent a message that said they missed you and you didn’t even respond to it.” She said she saw it about an hour later in her bag. “Well?” I said.

She seemed happy and upbeat. I asked if she got my letter the other day and she said yes. I asked her what she thought about it and she said “ It seems you know how I feel but they were just words. It doesn’t change anything.” “Really?” I said. She told me that I needed some sleep and left.

She was telling me about her trip as she put her laundry into the hamper. After she left I went to the laundry just to check something. I had a hunch that I might find what I was looking for. I went straight for the panties. I found a pair that might be loaded. I’m getting a black light tomorrow then the $hit is going to hit the fan! If it is good enough for Bill Clinton, it’s good enough for me.

Any other suggestions on how to handle this? If they are positive, I’m going to try to get her to tell me the truth without giving away any of my details. If the truth comes out, she is out on her a$$. I am cutting off the cash flow. I will not tolerate this type of person living in my house.