Avermont, I truly do not see harm in meeting X once/month to pay bills IF you are able to stay detached and calm. I might be the only one who thinks this, but it is an opportunity to look good, find a way to work in your GAL and build mystery in a good way (not "I'm so independent" but "wow, she sure seems positive and warm but isn't kissing my ass so it must not be for me...why is she glowing?"

Glad to hear you can carry the house...he might bring it up when you see him next though, don't you think?

You know, I admire your honesty about why you have been defensive! It does hurt one's ego when others excel where we are weak, but I guess it helps us be humble enough to admit we can learn from them! Been there done that for sure!

And I wanted to add that I used your trick of practicing multilpication tables the other day when I wanted to stop obsessing about WH-it worked especially well when I got up to 13x...and 14x... good idea!


me,34
exH,34
S,16 months
S:3/31/09-left for OW
started DBing 10/09
d final: sometime 10/10
current:
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1
met in 2004