His father past a few years ago. He was elderly and in his last days when my husband introduced us. His mom has always been very loving towards me and very proud of me in terms of completing my education and being ambitious in my career. However, she speaks limited English and it was always hard for us to communicate. My husband used to translate a lot. She lives in Sacramento and doesn't get to Los Angeles much.
When I payed my husband a surprise visit a few weeks ago, he asked why I didn't knock on his moms door. To be honest, I'm not sure how much his mother knows about the current state of our marriage (infidelity/divorce). I do recall my SIL telling me that she favors her boys and will ignore their significant others if they aren't on good terms. For example, the family was not sure if my brother in laws 3rd child was his and that caused distance between he and his girlfriend. My MIL took her my brother-in-laws side and would not hug or kiss my SIL when she came to pick up the kids. She was very cold and distant towards her but eventually came around. We still don't know if the child is my brother-in-laws but because he already has 2 kids with her, I think he has grown to love the 3rd child.
I spoke with my husband on Thursday evening for 30 min and it was a great conversation or at least progress. We talked about his job, my job, etc. He told me that he played the playstation I bought him for 6 hrs last Sunday. He also told me his nephew still remembers me and always brings me up or asks about me. I haven't seen his nephew since he was a baby, 2 yrs old and he's 5 or 6 now. It was good to hear that I'm still remembered and I thought it was cute that he shared that with me.
I will continue to give him space but check in with him periodically to let him know I still love him and want more than anything to work things out. I will continue to leave the reconciliation or divorce talk up to him, no pressure.
