Is H in a power struggle? for the last eight months, yes. Things are starting to shift majorly - his control tactics have gone way down. (ie - a couple months ago when my cat peed on the rug, H had a huge rage fit at me and I had to sleep somewhere else to get away from him. The old cat did it again recently, and H said tonight "Dont worry about it" GO FIGURE)
In our original R, I felt H had the power, but I think he has decided that he gave up too much power to me - because since he left he has been demanding and controlling and saying he shouldn't have put up with so much from me in the past. So it's been a phase and hopefully there will be some balance in the new R.
