h is in mlc, now threatening divorce...

[Gnosis]

Lost, have you thought of starting a thread in the Midlife Crisis forum of the board?

I think the folks there will be better equipped to help you. If you do, post a link here to your thread and I'll pop in there.

[Gnosis]

I'm glad that you have maintained your 3 things per day. Keep them going. When you find the first two become a habit (within 2 weeks of consistency) keep them going and find new substitutes.

h has been a real !@#$%^&...staying away and doing my own thing!

Good.

he still has a way to push my buttons and upset me...

If you think about it carefully you will realize:
1) Your buttons are being pushed because you have expectations and he is not satisfying them
2) You allow him to influence you. Find a way to neutralize the effect he has on you because only you can control the way you react.

he cant stand to: be in the house with me, in the car, do anything...turns into an arguement...

I know. It's tough. The only option left for you is to walk away. You need communicate what you feel is unacceptable behavior and communicate it to him. i.e. Set some rules (boundaries) and enforce them.

what the heck do i do but walk away? could bop him a good one...

LOL. Oh, I know how tempting that second part is...

he starts all this and then is more aggrivated when i walk out??

Too bad. He needs to learn how to treat you respectfully. Anything less and you're a doormat. Communicate your boundaries.

isnt that what he has done all along?

Yes.

he doesnt even make sense and the arguments are over stuff like what kind of boots the girls are wearing???

He's looking for reasons to justify his actions. DON'T GIVE THEM TO HIM. Avoid these senseless attempts. Laugh them off.

[lost1234]

thanks G!

it is reassuring to know that someone thinks similarly to me!

i guess i do expect something...not sure what, but obviously MORE than what he is giving right now...or able to give right now...

[Gnosis]

Lost, if you are in the "alt" post some clues...

[lost1234]

G, not great at this, ill try

i am a baney and my two daughters are princesses...

[Gnosis]

lost I think it may be wiser to create a new "alt" identity so that you can keep your real-life identity private.

Good thing I remain clueless to your clues LOL

[mindfull]

Lost, was just talking to you in the alt.

I'm sorry, but you are quite funny!!!

I like your clues above... I tried to search to see if G was being clueless, and he's NOT!

I "Lost" ya, but if we don't connect again. Look me up again!!

[lost1234]

hey MF! thanks!

its good to talk to people thru chat...it is so much easier!

i hope you had an ok day today! you have been on my mind!

[Wholeagain]

Hi Lost, how have you been?

Checking up on you.