He wanted you to text him back to say the change in schedule was okay. When you didn't, he walked in keyed up for a fight and it became a self-fulfilling destiny because maybe you had an irrritated look on your face as well. Maybe he was hostile and felt called out in front of your friends or still embarrassed about what they may or may not know about your recent separation. Maybe he feels like you are partying while he has to babysit.
Maybe he is still in the mode of accusing you of being controlling for having any boundaries or needs at all. Can you drop the 24 hours ahead issue totally for a few months? My H who is not as far along as yours, wants 100 percent control over scheduling. Yes, it is irritating. Can you view it as a temporary six month situation and allow it without resentment? Move it to the bottom of your priority list somehow?
At some time, all of the above have been true. I must clarify that four months ago I dropped the expectations of a schedule with H, esp. the 24 hr. one. It was something he was not ready to do so I gave it up. Yes, he wanted complete control. I wanted to pick my battles. Perhaps this is lingering, I do not know.
Making friends as a couple would be great = we have to be a couple first! lol.
He has in the past felt embarassed in front of my friends, wondering what they know, but lately not so much. Could also be lingering.
H came home in a cheery mood. I was glad the annoyance had passed! We've had a fine night here -= no drama. No love either, but thank god no anger/irritation like so many of you are facing, like I faced for so many months. WHEW
I think I will bring it up in MC tomorrow in that it represents a problem that I've had with him since day one - his unpredictable anger/irritation/rudeness. It's really killed me inside and added to the demise of our R (from my side).
