I knew about my husbands affair for five months before I confronted him. I had it ALL - phone/text records, bank records and many, many e-mails from his "friends" that told me ALL I needed to know. And none of it was wrong, it was all true.
I am not sure why exactly and pardon me if I am off base but I get the feeling you and I live in the same state as you spoke of owning an apartment. Trust me, if things get messy legally you will want to handle the affair in the BEST way. If you and your husband do reconcile the affair needs to be handled very carefully.
