Flowmom, I agree with Awoken about holding off on confronting him about OW. I made the mistake of confronting my H as soon as I found the littlest hint of an EA and I lost access to everything. If I had held out, I probably would have ended up with the proof. My H still denies that there is an OW, but I’m very suspicious. Moreover, this has been the hardest thing for me to let go. A part of me wants to know so badly, and I feel like I would know what I’m up against if I did. Nevertheless, each day it is getting easier to tell myself that if there is OW, it’s out of my control. However, if your H is having an affair, it should not be brought around your children. I’m not sure how to handle that one, sense you’ve already told him that you didn’t want anyone else around the kids.
You really do need to try to take care of yourself. Being sick like that is not going to help you or your children, try to get better and only focus on that right now. I know this is easier said than done, I’m having a hard time with this one too. I do know that this pain will go away, and you will be ok.
Together 16 years Married 12 years Me 36 H 34 D9 & S6 Separated 12/3/09 Confirmed A 1/25/10 Exposed A 1/26/10 H hired L, but not filed yet 1/27/10
