I am not going to actually help him move but will just put a few things that I choose for him to take. I will be at work when he is getting them. I am glad as I am not sure if I can handle seeing that! It was hard enough today.
I know Aver- I was hoping to be the nest RW! But, I have always been a "slow learner"!!! I will have to catch up on your thread!
BTW-I never have liked roller coasters!
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Well, just got done packing up some old towels and dishes for H. Crying the whole time of course! I just wish that I had read the DB/DR books back in Sept. and maybe I wouldn't have made so many mistakes and we wouldn't be in the mess right now. It just seems like after he told me of the A, that it just got more involved. One of my long time clients was in today and gushed on how good I looked and how did I do it and it all just came out! I didn't mean to tell her...man!
Well, have to finish cleaning up this weekends wallpaper mess so need to quit feeling sorry for myself and get busy!!!
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Its so hard when you get a missing him day, it feels like someone has ripped your heart out and no longer cares, but just remind yourself he isnt thinking about not caring or caring he is just wrapped up in his fog blanket telling himself he is right! Just imagine how stupid he is going to feel when the penny drops that only him can fix his problem and blaming you and behaving like a cross between ET and a teenager isnt going to fix things!
Hope you have had a much better day today (())
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Once lost but now found and happily married again!
Thanks LR...I just hope he wakes up before it is too late!
The day is getting better! Needs to since the kids will be home soon!
H was on the computer yesterday and so I checked the history and found he was looking at NADA, selling your vehicle, finding out what it is worth. The history shows a Mercury which we do not own so it is either his OW's or he is thinking of buying one? IDK. (with what money I ask...that's right, he has a "stash")Our truck is one of the things I can have over his head becuase I inherited it when my Dad died so I was kinda relishing in being able to take it away...this kinda takes the satisfaction out of that. He must already realize that.
H will be here tomorrow so I just put a password on the computer! Now, he can't get on here!
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My day is starting out pretty good! I called H (as he requested) to remind him of S14's ortho appt and he said that his sister must know what is going on as she had his XM radio shut off! lol! (She has been letting him be on their plan and paying for it for a couple of years now) I told him that I have not talked with her at all but that she had been asking SS27 and DIL questions.
It seems he is finally starting to see some consequences of his choices!
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Yup, but just be prepared that he will try to blame you or someone else for awhile. While a WAS is in a fog, they don't face the reality of those consequences very well. But hang in there... eventually he will have to face those consequences, one way or another.
RW...I am trying to DB like nobody's business! Today was a good day. It really does help to be at work! I talk to people all day and everyone is going thru something!
S14 told me that H told him that he is renting a place. Told S14 that it was a dump. All he has is a radio to listen to (now minus xm :-)) He has his dirtbike in the house! This is all so deja vu! When I first met H, he was living in a dump, he had dirtbikes in his living room, motor oil and tools in his kitchen cupboards. He had a tv (didn't work well) and a radio. No furniture to speak of...we would put a blanket on the floor and watch tv on the very few times that I went to his house! It is like he is going backwards...despite all the hurt he has caused me, I am really worried about him! I am thinking that I now have to add depression onto MLC and Infidelity and WAS!!!
Why do we hear so much about PMS and menopause but there is never really anything on MLC except jokes???
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Am thinking...I read that Lost Rabbit told her H that he left, he left everything. Is it against DB principals to offer our old rocker/recliner or to ask if there is anything else he needs? We have 4 tvs at home. The one in s14's room is the one that H bought the first time he left in 2001. I don't even know if he has sheets or a bed! I am thinking that I should not offer anything else. I offered some old dishes and pots and packed up his bathroom drawer and a few more clothing items. He chose to leave right? In the end, if we get a divorce, no fault, 50/50 in my state, we can divide stuff up then...in the meantime, I should be not give away anything?
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Mr Rabbit only took things that I didnt need as if there was only one telly he couldnt take it, if there was two/three he could..
Its ironic but when we start off we have hand me downs and borrowed stuff and dont worry about it, we get M and gain a few of lives luxury and think we have made it, then life goes pearshaped and we think we might like to go back to pre-M, but when they return to what they think their heart desires again, (MLC before M time) it might be fun for a while, but count the days till they remember how much they looked forward to being M and not living on hand me downs and borrowed stuff. Sorry thats a bit longwinded but the grass isnt greener for long!
It cant hurt to be considerate after all you do still love him and want him to be ok, but make sure he just has some things dont make him to comfortable lol!
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