Ok..that was so funny Drew! I think Kevin got the point after the first 5 times you posted it!!! LOL
I also think he is right...especially if there is no legal separation or D filed.
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Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
I want her to want me, but I do not want to be around her if she doesn't want me. So while I try to put a good foot forward when around her, I am more and more feeling the unwantedness when I am around her and it is turning me off from wanting to even put a good foot forward in front of her. This is leading me to start showing more of an "I don't care" attitude towards her.
Maybe this is where you have to be in order to be able to detach. It's better if you can do it without resentment, but for some people, that may have to come first.....then they can finally detach.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
With the addition of choir, I hate to say it, but you should follow your W's example of GAL. Just not the cheating part.
Ya. I am thinking about taking a day trip somewhere this coming Saturday since I won't have the kids. It would be nice to head out of town for a few hours and just get away.
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Maybe this is where you have to be in order to be able to detach. It's better if you can do it without resentment, but for some people, that may have to come first.....then they can finally detach.
I don't want this to be how I have to detach. Resentment is building at times lately. If I figure 3 years as in your case, I am about half way through this.
Yesterday I took my girls to see Astro Boy at the the movies. They loved it and I rather enjoyed it also. At one point, there was a sad moment in the movie of a girl trying to dial home because she missed her family and couldn't get hold of anyone. I started thinking how much I want to dial W and tell her I miss her and I just want us to be a family again. Sappy I know. Human emotions taking over at that point. After the movie we went home and I made dinner and I filled out a questionaire for a job a friend submitted my resume for. We will see if I hear back on it. I really enjoyed my weekend with my girls. Tonight W has them and I will be doing some work on my teams business plan. I am back to excercising again as well and eating healthy again. I get my girls back tomorrow night and Thursday night. I sure do miss them when they aren't here. I don't see the joy in not having my family around. Anyone who can find joy in not having their kids and family around on a regular basis makes me wonder about them sometimes. Maybe I am just wired differently.
Well, another day at work. Tomorrow is W's last day at her job, but apparently she already has one position lined up should she decide to take it. Good for her.
Kevin
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Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
Maybe I will go to fossil rim on Saturday. That really does look like a cool place.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
I am thinking about getting a Saturn Vue. I can get a 2009 for a really cheap price now since the company went out of business. As long as I have a mechanic that can work on it, it could be worth it. I could care less about warranties as they never cover what I need covered anyways.
Thinking it over.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
