I somehow helped X move some stuff to the apartment when he first moved out.

SO weird--acting cheerful and chatty as we brought his old futon and other stuff over.

Shared out some kitchenware and bedding.

All Acting As If. It was totally normal to help your life partner move out.

So, IMHO, it is fine to share out the stuff. Especially if you can Act As If the whole time.


Me: 44
Him: 42
Together: 23 years; never married
Bomb: August 1, 2009
Affair since May 2009
Walk away; no conversation; no process