Not a lot to say! Everyone must be out galing this weekend...good!
H is coming by sometime to split some more wood. I have plans to go to church and finish wallpaper removal when I get home so I will not be able to help him! :-) Wondering if today is the day he will tell us what he told DIL the other day about our M being over?
S14 had an all night thing at the Y last night so will probably be sleeping half the day which means that once again H will got out of being a parent and talking to him about his grades.
I don't seem to have a whole lot to say...whether that is good or bad I don't know! I guess I will see what happens later!!!
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Thanks RW-I looked good, smelled good and tried to be upbeat and mysterious! H was here when I got home from church.
He took his motorcycle and a box of things I had boxed up that were his from on top of the fridge. He didn't split wood since S14 was sleeping and couldn't help. I did tell him that we needed to get a schedule with the kids and he agreed. Offered him the house and I would leave and he said that he had found a place that he was going to move into. I asked him how he was going to pay for it and he said out of the money that "he has stashed". I have no idea on how he has gotten money to stash. He said that the place he found was a piece of s--t dump and I couldn't help it, I said "you'd rather live in a dump...that says a lot about how you feel about me" and he said "don't feel that way, it is not about you, never about you" and then I got a hold of my self and said that "yes, I know, it is about you and I have finally come to realize that". He didn't mention a D, he hasn't talked with the kids. I offered to give him some old dishes, pots and towels. Wrong to do?
I gave him his medical bills that are coming in and told him that he will have to call and make arrangements for a payment schedule.
I don't know how to feel at this point. I am still wavering on if I want things to work for us or not and yet I am somehow hopeful that he is getting his own place and yet I am not...I wanted him to stay at her place and make her crazy or vice versa so he would see what a mistake he has made!!!
H said that DIL gave him a "nasty" letter. I knew she had given him one but don't think she meant it to be nasty, just truthful. Is he feeling a little guilty? I just told him to not be mad at DIL, that she is hurting too. He said that he wasn't.
Well, I guess I will go take out some of my frustrations on the wallpaper!!!
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Hi CW, interesting that your H says its not about you its him! Well handled the rest of the day, wasnt wrong to give him the pots and pans, as you said they were the old ones, I wouldnt let H take anything that I couldnt do without, it did frustrate him but at the same time I held my ground that if he wanted out of our home that meant all of it! Just take each day as it comes dont put to much pressure on yourself.
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Man...these roller coaster emotions...I miss him. I saw that D11 wrote on the calendar to pray for Dad to come home. Not sure when she wrote that or if he saw it. Today he looked good...I forgot to to the alien head thing LR! Hope all is well with you...I will look in on you later!
I had read on someone's thread that they helped pack stuff for there WAS, nicely, and that it was ok to do that. H didn't take the stuff today so I will have it ready for him Tues. He is to come take S14 to his ortho appt. and will use the garage to change the oil in the truck so he can grab them then. Last week, H wanted to take a kerosene heater that we also use but said he wouldn't if we were using it!
I will continue to DB, GAL and reading my self-improvement books! I only have control over myself! I just keep repeating that to myself!!!
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Of course you miss him. That part is so hard. Have a good cry when you need to, then move on to your 180's and GAL.
I don't know, maybe it's just me, but I wouldn't help my H too much with the moving out. His choice, he can figure it out.
Anyway, get used to the rollercoaster ride, you'll be on it for awhile. But, you do learn to adjust, and eventually the dips and rises aren't so steep... hang in there!
You know, you are probably right Aver. I didn't have to actually face that and I really don't know how I would have responded. The "acting as if" is important.
