Running out of time.

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Clv,
Just read your thread, my WAW MLC has done the multiple OM thing right now, has probably had ONS's etc. You can read my thread but to put things in perspective, I don't think all of a sudden our wives have become these sex addicts, for them it is the "New Love" thing and the chemical release in their brains that they are seeking and yes that is what they are addicted to and it is a drug. They know what they are doing is wrong but justify it by what we H's have or have not done in the M in the past. My W just like yours has totally abandoned the kids. My D13 knows about OM #1 and OM#2 and hates my W for the lies she has told to her and what she is doing to the family. My W only sees my S9 and then it is less than 4-5 hours a week. She usually has dinner twice a week with him and she usually cuts that short. None of our friends can believe what she is doing as a mother. Our MLC WAW are definitely on an island, in a fog, hooked on a drug and are completely out of control. It has taken me 6 months to get where you are at emotionally today. GREAT JOB!! You are doing much better than I did.

In all likelyhood your W's behavior will increase not decrease when she moves out. Sorry, but that is what happened with my W. Protect your kids first, who knows what your W may or may not do, leave them alone. Have strange men back to the apartment when they are there etc. I know this is not pleasant but these are things you need to consider. Here is the good news, it sounds like your W might already see the challenge in keeping a R going with OM #1 and OM #2 is not really started.

My W was talking with OM #1 while involved with OM #2, I broke up her and OM#2 and she is still in contact with OM #1 but he is 2.5 hours away and definitely not interested in a R. My W is on the prowl everynight for new R. I have decided that I would almost rather her be involved with 1 person and let the R run its course so that when it comes crashing down, she will then experience the rejection that we are experiencing, it may be the only thing that will wake them up.

I have pretty successfully detatched and have 7 months before she can file for D. I hope she meets someone, falls in love and they break her heart in that time. Probably wishful thinking but I am pretty sure she is not coming back to me, not before she hits bottom and she is not there yet.

I think in your case since D is so easy that you just view it as a separation and you keep on DBing. I would say that you treat her as friendly as cordial as you would anyone but do not fulfill any of her emotional needs, meaning friendship, I made that mistake with my W and I just got hurt. You keep on doing the 180's and be nice to her and you will know when she is genuinely interested in you. As you have probably read this will probably take months, so strap in. It sounds like you are already doing a great job.

BTW welcome to the Forum.