I hope my H feels like yours Saffie in time and regrets it all. HE doesnt seem to be sad or depressed or obviously missing her but then I didnt know he was having an A for 2 years either. I still check his phone bill and he texted her on the day -Friday- he moved out of his apartment back home. e erases her text but they have dropped way down in frequency to 1-2 times a week. Do I say anything.
Yet we have been spending most of our time together. Trust is such an issue for me right now but I am afraid to ask him anything "deep". I wonder what she is planning. I am going on a 4 day cruise with friends next monday-planned before he came back. I am a bit of a wreck about leaving him alone. Our son said he would stop in and out casually but 22 year old boys forget and get busy. OW used to text him many times a day and I honestly dont have time at work (I work with children with disabilities) to text alot and not sure what to keep saying after "Thinking about your" or Miss you or have a great day?
Right now I just have this feeling I cannot ask much about the A, the OW or how he feels. He got a little anxious when I asked him about the new TV he brought back from his apartment which doesnt fit in our built in cabinet. He had expressed wanting to enlarge the cabinet but talking about the money/ when to call cabinetmaker made him start to kick his leg--a sure sign he is feeling anxious. So much for being honest about his feelings. I asked him and he admitted he was anxious about spending money but he had agreed to start sharing his feelings good and bad.I dont know how much to bring this up--I guess I should trust my gut but I am also so on eggshells maybe I am being too cautious? Or is this something that slowly develops as he trusts me more not to throw it in his face?
He is inviting me to join him in more of his activities, dinner meetings etc. It is nice to have a place to bounce these ideas off as most people have no understanding of this at all.
