He replied: thanks for passing that on. Got a bill for the plowing. Can you please write a check from the joint accnt. I will bring the bill the next time we get together.
He is referring to getting together for bill-reviewing/account reviewing.
So...I know you will all say NC.
But I am wondering on basic DB and next steps: if I am DETACHED; if what HE does doesn't affect MY weather; if I am my confident, sassy self (all of these are big assumptions); shouldn't it be no big deal (eventually) to sit with a computer at a public library and review accounts?
And I was in the mood to purchase a sassy new clingy blouse for the next bill paying session, but me being me, and living in the Great North, I wound up with an excellent pair of SmartWool running tights instead.
So, I would like to reply: Sent a check to the plow guy. Let me know what you would like to do about getting together for bill reviewing. I am not available to meet for the next two weeks. (true)
This would be pretty much a repeat of the December email exchange. I survived that OK.
The only odd thing is he hasn't contributed his $200.00 to the joint account. This amount is a random amount he decided was OK to pay, for "rent" on the garage/woodshop. He announced he was going to pay this amount, and I just didn't even argue.
What is most excellent about this: I can see that I CAN carry the house by myself! He has suddenly withdrawn his half of the household, and there is enough $ in the account. If I get a roomie as I plan to, the $ sitch would be really just fine.
It was really exhilarating to see that I can carry the house OK
So I am tempted to ask about his contribution. On the other hand, I also see that it puts me in a stronger position to get the house if he does not contribute--so why push it? let him slowly lose his half of the house.
So--handle the bill paying email like No Big Deal. Act As If emailing him or meeting or whatever is just another "to do" task on my list. Got my life to get to when the task is completed.
But buy that blouse first!
What say, oh wise ones?
Me: 44 Him: 42 Together: 23 years; never married Bomb: August 1, 2009 Affair since May 2009 Walk away; no conversation; no process
