What can I do to save my marriage? Help

[Sleepy]

I know it's hard to see the entire picture from the forum. Only I see the entire picture. I felt that the dark selfish DB type is the exact opposite that I need to be. I've been that way for years. I appreciate the feedback from all of you tho.

Lotus and Greek, I will go with this approach. I will focus on her and just look for the signs. If she has seen a guy I'm sure she will slip up.

After my last post she called me, and left a message that she was checking out of the hotel. I was in the O.R. and cell phones don't work there so I missed it. She told me that everything went well and was sorry that I was having a bad day at work.... Long story, lots of deep $hit today and it has been very stressful. Her voice was soft and sweet. Despite that, I will wait for her to initiate contact with me again.

I think I will focus on her when she gets home and then later ask her what she thought about the letter I wrote earlier. She never discussed it with me. I need to know what she thinks.

She wants to sell the house because it has been a money pit. It was built in 1927 and has been remodeled, but there is always something going wrong with it. My son doesn't have any friends in the neighborhood and we are looking for a more family oriented place, gated, so the kids can play in the street. Life just isn't like it was when we were kids. Yeah, putting a high price on it will certainly do the trick ;-)

I will continue to look at the entire picture.