well, my thoughts are when you picked him up, after you didn't respond to any of his texts, I would assume he'd be a little annoyed with that. PLUS, you guys are doing the same thing, and your waiting for the other person to take the first step.
great job biting your tongue! I know that was hard, but remember, he is an alien right now, you HAVE to expect bad behavior from him, this is normal alien behavior!
if he does ask to do something, I think it's a great opportunity to have fun, but you have to be that duck! like G said (I think) these are tests, and he is going to push your buttons, partly subconsciously, and part not. He is looking for change because he doesn't believe it will get any better. and same with you. but if someone doesn't REALLY change, then it won't get better.
So, do you think your up to the challenge if he gets negative if you go out with him? what you have to do, is return all his negativeness with your positiveness. everytime he says something yucky, perhaps visualize his head having green slimy things crawling out of his nose and ears and maybe it will make you laugh! or gag. lol
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
Friday night he came home at 9:00 - so late - never before on a Friday night especially after being gone for 9 days! I wasn't shocked but the nerve - ya know?
He called me at 5:45 saying he was leaving (caller id said office) my mindreading self thinks "why did he call me after not calling me for 8 days straight?" what was the purpose of calling from the office to let me know he was still there? He leaves at 3:30 so I think he went back to call me (he wasn't at office from 3:30-5:45) that is what I think
Anyway....I didnt know my daughter texts him at 8:45 to say "where the heck are you at?" he texts right back to say "I'll be home in 10 mins." The kids gave him the cold shoulder when he got home. H looked at me and I just shrugged my shoulders.
The a**hole had the nerve to say, "I'd like a glass of wine...do u wanna pick the bottle?" - he wanted me to sit and have glass with him? God give me patience - he has been so rude people!
SAT - just ran some errands and he was civil - he made sushi and we had some beers and saki - he brought up some relationship talk - said, "I didn't call you all that time cuz I just didn't wanna fight." I'm so over that you guys...the cop out! He's full of sh*t - I think there is an ow otherwise he wouldn't spend so much time at work.
SUN - we're watching football he made lunch and we're just here. It's weird and distant. I'm actually feeling myself detach for the first time. I'm asking myself is this what IIIIIIIIIIIIIIII want? This is miserable. I'm just not good at this crap.
My best friend comes Tuesday - I think it will be good for me - I need to stop focusing on my worthless R right now.
Anyway....Go Chargers!
M44 H41 M20 T23 3 older teens Bomb Nov 09 "i'm not happy" EA Nov 09 w/coworker Another PA in Mar 10 I Filed Apr 10 D final Dec 10
SUN - we're watching football he made lunch and we're just here. It's weird and distant. I'm actually feeling myself detach for the first time. I'm asking myself is this what IIIIIIIIIIIIIIII want? This is miserable. I'm just not good at this crap.
My best friend comes Tuesday - I think it will be good for me - I need to stop focusing on my worthless R right now.
Anyway....Go Chargers!
F!@#$%* CHARGERS! LOL!
Seriously though, luvless I know that feeling you mentioned, especially now with my W now doing the pursuing after all of the crap she pulled and after such a long period of time, you naturally detach, you naturally get used to them not being around and when they are around, they just seem so .... DIFFERENT. It's the best description I can come up with, you look at them and you ask yourself who is this person because you're not used to them.
