Thanks. The therapy session was fantastic! I think we found a winner, although my LD wife felt a little overwhelmed.

The therapist suggested without my having to bring it up sensate focus exercises and give us assignments to do prior to our next session.

She also gave us a Sinclair Institute sex instruction video to watch together and had specific questions she wanted my wife to answer as to how she felt about certain segments of the tape.

The therapist also did a series of questions with my wife asking her what she thought would happen if nothing in our relationship were to change. My wife admitted after a lot of avoidance that we would probably divorce. Then the therapist asked me if I had ever thought about divorce. I said that I had, but it wasn't what I wanted. She then asked me if things didn't change, would I seek a divorce. I said that I would. The therapist really wanted my wife to understand what the consequences of her choices were.

Then the therapist help create an image of what might be if we do get closer together and more intimate. She then told us that we should visualize those goals and try in interject play and laughing into our touching and sex live.

I really felt that we got our money's worth out of that session. It was everything I had hoped for.

What was more interesting was the reaction from my wife later in the day when we got home. She felt that she had had her soul rubbed raw by the therapist and she told me that she had to spend time away from me to calm herself. She told me that she wasn't withdrawing from me, but that she needed time for herself to heal and calm down. I really believe what she said and it was an interesting insight in why I feel that she may withdraw from me whenever she feels close to me.

I am looking forward to the therapy execises (assuming that my wife does them with me) and our next therapy session.

All in all a great day. Still no touching or sex, but there is a lot more hope for a better future.

>43 years of marriage--My wife and I are now closer than we have been in decades. I believe that my SSM is over.