The only thing I can say is this: One of the things I love most about my marriage and my husband is the fact that he would never, ever share me (sexually) with anyone else. His sexual possession of me is my greatest aphrodesiac. It makes me want him sexually all the time.
Where I work, there are several really cute girls who work there with me. Some of them dress very sexy, showing some blatant cleavage or miles of legs in short skirts with sexy stockings. These girls have boyfriends or husbands. All I can think of is "wow, its so sad that their boyfriend doesn't cherish them enough to insist that she keeps her goodies covered up in public, especially at work". In my life, my man wouldn't let me out the door in something that shows any cleavage or too much leg.
Don't get me wrong - I am a sexpot and I look sexy no matter what I wear...so its not like I dress like a bum or an old lady. And my husband makes sure to flatter me and tell me that no matter what the other girls are wearing, I still look the sexiest in any room I walk into.
But the point is that he will not share even a glimpse of my flesh with anyone else. He knows they will be checking me out anyway, but at least he also knows that they will never be able to see down my shirt or too much of my legs. He knows that this is special, only for him, and that I want it that way, too. He isn't inhibiting me. It is my choice to respect his wishes to not share my skin with others.
When I get home from work, he peels my clothes off layer by layer and makes sure my skin gets all the attention it could possibly ever want.
Sharing ourselves only with each other and being fully monogamous has its own type of sexual excitement. We can even take this further and make a whole game out of it in the bedroom (use your imagination).
If he ever wanted to share me in any way, I would wonder "who is this man and what have you done with my husband?" Even if he just suggested that I dress extra showy-sexy-lots of skin showing, and we went out on the town just to see how the men would stare at me...to some couples, that might seem flattering to her. It might be a turn on to some men to have men stare at his woman. But as I already said, men will stare at me no matter what I wear and this is NOT a turn on to my husband. He is ok with it as he knows that's how men are, its never going to change. But to suggest that we go out to deliberately catch the glances of other men? I would think he was on drugs or had a concusion. It is just not the way we enjoy each other.
Of course, not all couples are the same and I can respect that you and your wife are both enjoying the swapping/sharing thing that you are doing. I am just trying to offer to you this - just because you think that you are doing something that is at the height of most people's fantasies, I and my husband have a different fantasy. We have the fantasy of hot monogamous behavior, possessiveness, and ownership of each other's bodies.
And as far as variety...I have already said earlier on your thread, with role play, imagination, and a good sex closet, either of us can be ANYONE we want to be...there is no lack of variety in our monogamy. I am every woman, he is every man. And even the man-woman lines can be blurred within your own imagination.
